Some 9mm guns can be loaded with 357 bullets if that's all you got and loaded rounds fit your chamber. You don't need to crimp into a lead auto pistol bullet. You just need to iron the case mouth flat. Crimp just needs to be snug enough not to be able to push the bullets into the case by hand. If you pull a loaded bullet and you can see an obvious depression or an hour glass shape created by over crimping something needs to change. If you just have a scratch line on a bullet from seating, no big deal.
Here is how I recommend you set your seat/crimp die.
Make sure you have enough flare on your cases to accept the base of your desired cast bullets maybe 1/16 to 1/8 inch down from the mouth so they can be pushed in smoothly by the seater stem with some resistance from neck tension. With lead bullets more flare is required than with jacketed bullets to reduce scraping the sides and removing the lube during seating. If you are shaving rings of lead off your bullets you definitely need more flare in the expanding die or less crimp in the seater die. Next, Unscrew your seater die so it won't crimp at all but screw down your seating stem to seat a bullet into a practice case without powder or primer to the depth you want. Once you have that dummy round with the bullet seated to the correct depth, back out your seating stem and holding the ram on your press in the raised position start slowly screwing the seater die body down into the top of your press. You will feel slight resistance when the die starts to take the flare out of your case. Keep holding the ram at the top of the stroke and slowly screwing the die into the press until you feel firm resistance. Back your dummy round out of the die and give the die maybe 1/4 to 1/2 turn beyond firm then finish your crimp bringing the dummy to the top of the press stroke one last time. It should result in a solid crimp without over crimping. Lock your crimp die to that depth in your press. Then, with your dummy round still in the die, screw in the seater stem until you feel it snug against the bullet tip, then lock that down and try loading one more dummy round in a second case. Usually that will be a little longer. If it's too long to chamber smoothly, screw down the seater stem a half turn and lock it in place again. Take your second dummy round and bump it down with the new shorter adjustment on the seater stem and check for length and feeding in your gun. Once you know you've got the bullet seating die correctly adjusted, then start cranking out loaded rounds with powder and primer. Learning to seat and crimp bullets correctly can be a trial and error process at first, but after you understand how much flare you need and how to set up your seat/crimp die the reloading process gets easier and your ammo gets better.
One other thing. By chance are you using Lee dies? I prefer RCBS dies with actual lock rings. My preferred dies are made by RCBS. Hornady dies are pretty well made too but I don't like sliding seater stems. The one new Lyman set I bought was full of mettle shavings and I sent it back. Any lee factory crimp dies I own, now have Hornady or RCBS lock rings to keep them from walking out of adjustment.