I am embarrassed to tell my non-gun acquaintances how many guns I have, they hurt my feelings by looking at me and saying "why?". Or my favorite: "Why do you NEED so many guns?".
I don't tell anyone how many guns I have and like a lot of us I have more then I can quickly calculate off the top of my head . It's not because I have a problem with how many I have or even what others would think . It's that nobody in todays climate should know how many or what type of guns you have .
As to the second bold part , I love answering that question and it's not the age old why do you need two cars or what ever "our" common reply is .
If it's a woman ( yes stereotyping ) I ask how many shoes do you have and they usually roll there eyes . I then say no-no please this is not a gotcha question , seriously how many and why so many how come a pair of tennis shoes and a pair of heels is not enough ? They often will start the well some heels don't work with these types of clothes and this shoe doesn't go with shorts then open toe this to type of heel that . Then there's colors that don't match the purse etc etc etc .
I then say I see your point completely and go about explaining to a firearms enthusiast it's very much the same idea . A hunting rifle for large game will often be different then for smaller game . I start talking weight if you need to carry it long distances , type of plinking guns ( long range or short ) maybe a couple in differnt calibers because of cost of ammo in one is much less , barrel twist , stocks , materials used , self defense weapons and how they are often much different then basic hunting rifles etc etc . Then the same basic issue with handguns and pretty soon you have 30 or 40 guns with out even realizing it very much like your shoes . Most of the reasonable ones , the lightbulb goes on but some actually say " I still don't see why you need so many"
The same thing if talking with men ( yep I'm doing it again ) this time I talk golf or fishing . Why do you need 5 bass poles 3 trout poles a couple bluegill poles not to mention all those salt water poles hanging there on the wall . They then say if you're going deep sea fishing you can't bring your fresh water trout pole because it can't handle the strength of salt water fish ."me" Ok fine you need different poles but surely you can just move the reel from pole to pole right ??? They then go on happily about size strength and capacity of the reels and line you put on each etc etc . I say oh I completely understand now and start to explain .......
This is all done none combative and in a let them dazzle me kind of way with there expertise and knowledge of there topic to then use that as a way for them to understand that thinking a gun is a gun is the same as thinking a shoe is a shoe or a fishing pole is ..... well you get it lol
In talking with friends, even gun-friendly friends, I don't mention numbers. Anyone who knows me knows I am a "hobbyist", that I enjoy firearms and shooting. I just leave it at that. It's an unfortunate sign of the times, but your buddy tells his bar mate at the VFW, who tells his wife and is overheard by his teenager, who mentions it to the local drug retailer, and you're on the target list. Plus it's a debate you can't win.
That 100%
I have a few friends that tell me they would NEVER tell anyone anything about "my" gun . This is while they are telling me about all the guns and ammo there other friends have
Over the decades I've learned there are very few people you can trust with sensitive information .