My wife has taken a liking to a P95--she says it recoils less than any other 9mm she's shot. She also likes the fact that the slide is very easy to operate.
They're durable & reliable. I have no problem recommending them for self-defense use. Accuracy on the ones I own has never been spectacular, but it's always been adequate.
CDNN is selling new, blued, "decocker" models for about $250 right now.