I shoot and load a lot of .357 mag. and have discovered a load that contradicted my expectations, and that of my Son's who shoot a bunch of my hand loads too. My high velocity load which is 110 gr. and 125 grain jacked bullets loaded with H110 or 296, are very uncomfartable to shoot because of heavy recoil, so that is certainly not the load of choice for you. But while trying to work up another high velocity load, which is what I prefer to shoot, I desiced on a 158 gr. jacketed bullet. I used the same powders,
H110 and 296, and loaded up at the maximum charge of 16.4 grains of 296. I was expecting a much heavier recoil, especially since they chronographed at nearly 1300 fps., This load was so nice I've decided to make it my self defense load. I don't know what gun you are shooting, but I fired these out of S&W model 66-5 and a Taurus model 608. The little S&W is a snub nosed and ususally leaves me with a sore wrist with full magnum loads, but these loads didn't even make it necessary to use a two hand hold. Try those 158s with 296 or H110 , I think you'll like them. I used Hornady XTPs.
Here is some data:
W-296 - 14.3 grains to 16.4 grains
H110 - 14.1 grains to 17.0 grains
DO NOT REDUCE THESE POWDER CHARGES BELOW THE MINIMUM OR PRESSURES INCREASE BEYOND A SAFE RANGE!