Welcome aboard sdw1961 !!!
"A Ruger 44 Magnum Redhawk Alaskan." [sdw1961]
Reminds me of a story my wife told me about her first encounter with handguns. Her best male friend and his wife took her shooting one day. Both she and the best friend's wife (to this day) dislike firearms. The man gave her instructions, then handed her a Smith & Wesson Model 29, 44 Magnum revolver. That was the last time she fired a gun.
She told me the experience was a mix of 'absolute fear and boredom. '
My advice to you: Join a private gunclub, its not that expensive, you will meet a lot of good people, and learn a lot about firearms and just about every topic that is discussed in these forums.
Handguns: Choose a small caliber, like a 22LR Smith & Wesson revovler, they hold their value well should you later decide to sell it.
Best of luck to you...guns are better than husbands, you can always trade them in for a new one, anytime.