As a quick update.... I found that swapping the magazine latch between the DPMS and the Sota worked. I bought a new latch for the Sota and tried it, and it worked.
I shot it some this afternoon, putting probably 60 or so rounds through it. I loaded only 5 in the magazine, sometimes 3 or 4, to test it out... it worked flawlessly with my Magpul 20 round magazines. I have two of their 10 round (?) mags that would not feed. These mags are just slightly shorter than the 20 rounders, and are straight, where the 20 rounders have a slight bend to them.
All 4 of the 20 rounders worked with no issues at all. I even shot some of my 55 gr reloads with no issues.
At this point, I'm blaming the magazine catch... I'm going to shoot it a lot in the next couple of weeks, to see if the problem has gone away.... if it is even a little un-reliable, I'm going to get a new lower and rebuild it, but today was "pain free"....