I ended up here back in August, I think, after I wrote an essay called "Women, Handguns and Civilization." I'm pondering a follow-up essay called "Women, Handguns and Self-Defense" or maybe "Wo/men, Handguns and Self-Defense". A combination of the two is going to end up as a chapter of a book I'm writing called All the Sisters and All the Brothers: Real Feminism for Real Americans (working title).
One of the things that struck me when I was working towards that first essay was the sheer anger and vitriol I evoked in a largely "liberal", largely female forum. I suggested that women, especially feminist women, should encourage other women to bear arms in self-defense as part of the community to be defended, particularly women who probably know they are at risk, by exes and stalkers for example. A number of these women self-disclosed their own assaults and then went on to state that at least they hadn't been armed or they would have killed their perpetrator.
Self-defense for women is very different than self-defense for men. The profile of our assailtants and our relationship to them is very different, as are the crimes committed against us. I also know that more boys and men are sexually assaulted and raped, often by other men, but also by women, than many people realize. <snip as not relevant>
However, men are encouraged to seriously defend themselves in a way women simply are not.
So that's background.
Here's the question.
How has your experience with crime, particularly sexual crimes, to include gay-bashing, either directed at you or someone close to you, influenced your decision to buy or give and bear arms? This is true whether you or your dear ones are male, female, trans, gay, straight, cross-dresser, whatever. A particular question is: How ambivalent were you (they?) about arming yourself (themselves)? How much did the thought, "If only..." cost you (them)?
While I am a writer, I am not in the habit of embarassing or hurting people who respond honestly to me. I am collecting information to use, but no one will be named or quoted directly without permission, whether people choose to respond publicly or privately to me.
I would ask that those who respond to this in any way do so as gentlemen and -women. Don't further the perpetrators' crimes by sniping, snarking, or slurring the survivors.
Thank you,
Erin Solaro
The usual apologies for misspellings I've missed and Germanic sentences I haven't whacked down to size.
One of the things that struck me when I was working towards that first essay was the sheer anger and vitriol I evoked in a largely "liberal", largely female forum. I suggested that women, especially feminist women, should encourage other women to bear arms in self-defense as part of the community to be defended, particularly women who probably know they are at risk, by exes and stalkers for example. A number of these women self-disclosed their own assaults and then went on to state that at least they hadn't been armed or they would have killed their perpetrator.
Self-defense for women is very different than self-defense for men. The profile of our assailtants and our relationship to them is very different, as are the crimes committed against us. I also know that more boys and men are sexually assaulted and raped, often by other men, but also by women, than many people realize. <snip as not relevant>
However, men are encouraged to seriously defend themselves in a way women simply are not.
So that's background.
Here's the question.
How has your experience with crime, particularly sexual crimes, to include gay-bashing, either directed at you or someone close to you, influenced your decision to buy or give and bear arms? This is true whether you or your dear ones are male, female, trans, gay, straight, cross-dresser, whatever. A particular question is: How ambivalent were you (they?) about arming yourself (themselves)? How much did the thought, "If only..." cost you (them)?
While I am a writer, I am not in the habit of embarassing or hurting people who respond honestly to me. I am collecting information to use, but no one will be named or quoted directly without permission, whether people choose to respond publicly or privately to me.
I would ask that those who respond to this in any way do so as gentlemen and -women. Don't further the perpetrators' crimes by sniping, snarking, or slurring the survivors.
Thank you,
Erin Solaro
The usual apologies for misspellings I've missed and Germanic sentences I haven't whacked down to size.
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