Just for your curiosity I weighed a few samples:
20 ga.
Remington SP 20---24.2 grains average
Winchester WAA 20---30.1
Winchester WAA 20F1---25.1
12 ga.
Winchester WAA12R---29.5
Remington RXP12---38.8
Remington R12H----34.7
Remington SP12----32
Remington RP12----30.1
Don't load .410. The same wads are used in 2 3/4 and 3" shotshells. Unlike reloading for rifle-pistol, you use the exact primer, wad, powder, hulls, and charge listed in a published manual. You use the exact recommended components and do not switch one thing in the load listed. Don't think the weight of a wad will effect your ballistic charts much? Hope this helps.