I don't own a Rohrbaugh but I have fired one. I think everyone's experience is different due to hand size, hand shape, hand strength, etc. but the Rohrbaugh 9 had much higher perceived recoil to me than my Guardian 380, more along the lines of the Keltec P9 or P11. The Rohrbaugh seemed to want to jump out of my hand - it didn't, but it felt like it was trying to.
My friend bought the Rohrbaugh 9 - the one that I fired - to replace his Keltec P3AT. He also found the recoil quite punishing, and decided to sell the Rohrbaugh and keep the P3AT. He also had cycling issues with his. I didn't have any when I was firing it, but after he sold it he told me that he had a few jams that contributed to his decision not to keep it.
Just about every make and model of firearm has examples that are better or worse than others, and maybe his just wasn't one of the better examples of that model. As I said anyone else's experience may be different. I know the Rohrbaugh has a lot of fans. I am obviously not one of them.