As I have been through this situation before, I can say that my process in getting an Order of Protection was a slow one.
My psychotic ex-boyfriend (you can do a search to read about that little story) had it coming to him, and I am not sorry. As for his rights to legally purchase a gun being permanently winged, that was the result of his actions, not mine. Had he left me alone, had he not threatened to “take everybody down” at my workplace, had he not threatened my co-workers, employer, and client, he would not have been arrested for harrassment and had the Order filed against him. He did it to himself.
I already had three police reports against him, and none of these did anything, or even faze my ex. He lived in a different county, and the logistical and lack of manpower problems prevented a cop from driving an hour away to nail him for a misdemeanor harrassment warrant. It could be months or even years before he would get arrested for the warrant! And what was I supposed to do in the meantime? Dragging him into court for the Order of Protection was the only legal recourse I had, and I only managed that after months of frustration. I didn’t start out wanting the order, I wanted to throw his butt in jail for a few nights, but that wasn’t going to happen.
I got an Ex Parte Order of Protection, a temporary and immediate order filed until a court date was set. He was served about a month later. When the trial came around, he decided not to show up to defend himself. I got my one year order or protection by default, (it expires on the 23rd of this month) and have to carry a copy wherever I go. I do the same with my gun.
Months afterwards, he must’ve wandered into my county, and a cop probably did a routine license plate check and found out he had an outstanding warrant. The trial was set for a few months later, and as the prosecution’s witness, I was there to confront him. BellSouth played games and didn’t turn over phone records in time, so the trial was rescheduled two months later. He had no lawyer, so he was the one to question me directly. He tried every maneuver, every evil stare, intimidating gesture, nonsensical questions and snide comments to scare and discredit me. He got 6 months probation and anger management classes. The judge saw he was full of crap, and asked if he had been in trouble with the law before. The response was a quick, downcast look.
And then I saw his criminal record. Turns out he probably wouldn’t have been able to legally buy a gun anyways, since he has numerous DUI’s and .... assault. Funny what you find out after the fact.
The scary thing? He knows very well that I am armed. He’s seen my guns before. He never liked me carrying one because “he was there to protect me”. And what was to protect me against him?
Yes, some women have shamefully abused this part of the law, but in my case, I did it because I had to, it was the only thing I could legally do, and it worked. It’s not a kevlar vest, but it got the message through his thick skull that I meant business. It was the paper trail I needed in case this jerk really did end up doing bodily harm to me (I picture shooting him in self-defense and the prosecutor says: “Well, miss, you say this man had been harrassing you for some time, but we don’t see any records of it.”)
I think the lawmakers made it illegal for those with Orders against them to own guns because they believe it keeps the victims from being harmed. But like any law, it is only abided by those who care to follow it. And last time I checked, people were murdered by knives, strangulation, and rat poison. Heck, I could kill you with a whiffle bat if I really wanted too.
My ex has a shotgun under his bed, and I haven’t tattle-taled.