Hi Folks, this is my first post here. I'm not a big gun hobbyist but I do own several (6 or 7) firearms. I'm also a hunter with a Rem870.
I have a question about an unfortunate incident my wife and I experienced this evening. I apologize if this gets lengthy but I think its important to understand the situation before giving me some input.
While I don't carry a weapon myself, I have suggested to my wife that she should carry one when she's out for nature walks with our 3 year old or when she has to drive down to the city for anything. Backdrop: We live out in the country on 10+ acres surrounded by woods and corn fields. I'm about 50, she's about 40, we are both educated and normal every day people. Frequent news media incidents of pitbull attacks and country living homeowners being tied up, beat up, and robbed in their own homes have sort of driven us both to the point where we think its time for her to get a CPL license. This is something we've discussed on and off for over the past five years or so every time we hear one of these local news stories.
So this evening at around 5pm, we drove to the local gun shop with the intent to purchase a semi-auto pistol if she found one that she was comfortable with. There's a local guy down the road who has regular training classes to get the CPL permit every other week for $100.
While my wife has fired my guns in the past, she's never handled one without strict supervision by me and has only fired a total of a couple dozen rounds in her whole life. She's European and is not accustomed to guns so they make her nervous. She's not against them in any way, its just that she recognizes the danger and won't even pick one up in the house until I've cleared it. (And no, our 3 year old can not get access to any of them for those of you who are wondering)
So we go to the gun shop and she handles several small pistols like the newer glock 42/43 made for small hands.
She had some trouble pulling the slide back, and figuring out how to release it.. Played with the weapon, flipped it back and forth, felt the weight, pointed it, etc etc. You know, the normal thing someone does.
After experiencing four or five different brands and 45 minutes of asking questions, we settled on the M&P Shield in the 9mm because she said it fit her hand and she liked the additional thumb safety switch.
I tell the customer service guy to write it up and he pauses.. Turns bright red in the cheeks and says "I have to be honest with you man, I'm not going to sell you this gun today" I had little reaction because I wasn't actually sure if our state (Michigan) had a 3 day waiting period or not.. Then he went on to explain his decision in that he didn't feel comfortable because she had pointed the gun in the direction of other people in the store and that "We always treat the gun as if its loaded"..
Please note that for the entire 45 minutes we were there, only one other customer walked in and was gone within 3 minutes and my wife never pointed the gun at anyone intentionally. I can not say however that the gun was never pointed at anyone when she was playing with the slide or safety and rotating it in her hands.
I'm a middle aged man, been around for a while and I'm pretty sure that arguing with a gun store guy about why he won't sell you a gun would probably be about a futile as arguing with a police officer.. So I said to my wife "Honey, he has an inherent duty to reject the sale of any firearm to anyone he's not comfortable with". My wife was not the least bit upset that we couldn't purchase the gun, but she was a bit perplexed on why the guy blamed it on her handling the weapon in the store. She did not actually say anything until afterwards. He then mentioned that we should come back and I asked "in a week?" and he said "Ya, whatever".. then I said "is 3 days long enough?" to which he said "Sure"..
I said think you for your time showing us our choices and we left.. I should have probably tried to press him for more explanation but I was so stunned he refused us that I just figured the best course at that time was just to say "I understand".
The process of what the heck just happened starts........
The store closes at 6pm, we finally decided what to purchase at about 5:50 pm.. Did this store employee just want to get home on a Friday night and didn't want to stick around long enough for us to fill out the paperwork???
(Found out from Facebook that the guy is actually the store owner. His facebook page is filled with the typical country boy stuff like hunting pictures, trucks, guns, American patriotic stuff.
Is it possible that he had a problem with my wife's foreign accent? (She's white, tall, thin, and ten times prettier than what I deserve, so I'd have a hard time buying that it was any kind of racial thing). She educated and speaks 4 languages.. We're both normal white people so its hard to believe it was racial based on her accent.. but who knows I guess..
Is it normal for a gun shop to refuse to sell a gun to someone who's not familiar with firearms or how to handle them? Isn't that what a CPL class is for? Isn't that what husband supervision is for?
If one is to always assume a gun is loaded, how is it possible to clean the gun? I would never clean a gun I assumed was loaded would you? Seems silly in this respect.
My wife did a bit of googling and mentioned that the store owner might have thought it was something called a "straw sale" and that I was having her buy the gun for me.. Huh? I'm perfectly legal to buy a gun.. he could have run my background too for all I care.. And why would I want to buy a girly gun that's far too small for my hands?
Nothing of this makes sense to me..
I'm hoping some of you who are more experienced in these matters could possibly shed some light on this. What am I missing?
I have a question about an unfortunate incident my wife and I experienced this evening. I apologize if this gets lengthy but I think its important to understand the situation before giving me some input.
While I don't carry a weapon myself, I have suggested to my wife that she should carry one when she's out for nature walks with our 3 year old or when she has to drive down to the city for anything. Backdrop: We live out in the country on 10+ acres surrounded by woods and corn fields. I'm about 50, she's about 40, we are both educated and normal every day people. Frequent news media incidents of pitbull attacks and country living homeowners being tied up, beat up, and robbed in their own homes have sort of driven us both to the point where we think its time for her to get a CPL license. This is something we've discussed on and off for over the past five years or so every time we hear one of these local news stories.
So this evening at around 5pm, we drove to the local gun shop with the intent to purchase a semi-auto pistol if she found one that she was comfortable with. There's a local guy down the road who has regular training classes to get the CPL permit every other week for $100.
While my wife has fired my guns in the past, she's never handled one without strict supervision by me and has only fired a total of a couple dozen rounds in her whole life. She's European and is not accustomed to guns so they make her nervous. She's not against them in any way, its just that she recognizes the danger and won't even pick one up in the house until I've cleared it. (And no, our 3 year old can not get access to any of them for those of you who are wondering)
So we go to the gun shop and she handles several small pistols like the newer glock 42/43 made for small hands.
She had some trouble pulling the slide back, and figuring out how to release it.. Played with the weapon, flipped it back and forth, felt the weight, pointed it, etc etc. You know, the normal thing someone does.
After experiencing four or five different brands and 45 minutes of asking questions, we settled on the M&P Shield in the 9mm because she said it fit her hand and she liked the additional thumb safety switch.
I tell the customer service guy to write it up and he pauses.. Turns bright red in the cheeks and says "I have to be honest with you man, I'm not going to sell you this gun today" I had little reaction because I wasn't actually sure if our state (Michigan) had a 3 day waiting period or not.. Then he went on to explain his decision in that he didn't feel comfortable because she had pointed the gun in the direction of other people in the store and that "We always treat the gun as if its loaded"..
Please note that for the entire 45 minutes we were there, only one other customer walked in and was gone within 3 minutes and my wife never pointed the gun at anyone intentionally. I can not say however that the gun was never pointed at anyone when she was playing with the slide or safety and rotating it in her hands.
I'm a middle aged man, been around for a while and I'm pretty sure that arguing with a gun store guy about why he won't sell you a gun would probably be about a futile as arguing with a police officer.. So I said to my wife "Honey, he has an inherent duty to reject the sale of any firearm to anyone he's not comfortable with". My wife was not the least bit upset that we couldn't purchase the gun, but she was a bit perplexed on why the guy blamed it on her handling the weapon in the store. She did not actually say anything until afterwards. He then mentioned that we should come back and I asked "in a week?" and he said "Ya, whatever".. then I said "is 3 days long enough?" to which he said "Sure"..
I said think you for your time showing us our choices and we left.. I should have probably tried to press him for more explanation but I was so stunned he refused us that I just figured the best course at that time was just to say "I understand".
The process of what the heck just happened starts........
The store closes at 6pm, we finally decided what to purchase at about 5:50 pm.. Did this store employee just want to get home on a Friday night and didn't want to stick around long enough for us to fill out the paperwork???
(Found out from Facebook that the guy is actually the store owner. His facebook page is filled with the typical country boy stuff like hunting pictures, trucks, guns, American patriotic stuff.
Is it possible that he had a problem with my wife's foreign accent? (She's white, tall, thin, and ten times prettier than what I deserve, so I'd have a hard time buying that it was any kind of racial thing). She educated and speaks 4 languages.. We're both normal white people so its hard to believe it was racial based on her accent.. but who knows I guess..
Is it normal for a gun shop to refuse to sell a gun to someone who's not familiar with firearms or how to handle them? Isn't that what a CPL class is for? Isn't that what husband supervision is for?
If one is to always assume a gun is loaded, how is it possible to clean the gun? I would never clean a gun I assumed was loaded would you? Seems silly in this respect.
My wife did a bit of googling and mentioned that the store owner might have thought it was something called a "straw sale" and that I was having her buy the gun for me.. Huh? I'm perfectly legal to buy a gun.. he could have run my background too for all I care.. And why would I want to buy a girly gun that's far too small for my hands?
Nothing of this makes sense to me..
I'm hoping some of you who are more experienced in these matters could possibly shed some light on this. What am I missing?