You have the right idea now some more !
Hey Davey, you are on the right track, but one thing you may not realize is this, you being a new shooter, your hands are not used too the forces being used in a grip of a recoiling handgun, you keep shooting and being patient, and after awhile it will start to feel better, you may notice your hands (muscles) are sore, this is a new activity for you and like everything else, you just have to get conditioned, I found out along time ago when I had a shooting layoff, that it took time for my hands to get accustomed to shooting again, I was used to shooting 300-500 rounds with comp guns several times a week in prep and practice for the upcoming match season.
if you shoot regularly you will get broken in just like a new gun, and things will fall into place. Hope this make sense, as I know allot of new shooters that just can't get it figured out and can't relax, after some pep talk and almost forcing them to just relax and keep shooting, then (most) start shooting better. You can't become a good shooter with a 50 round box of ammo every couple of months, oh and don't blame the gun, it's only doing what your asking it to do. Enjoy and be patient, practice allot and who knows, you may have to get into reloading so you have all the ammo you need to stay proficient. Oh and yes we download the ammo for competition, nobody says you have to fire full power loads all the time, this makes a difference also. Better practice sessions, not as tired, equals a better shooter.
Regards
Duane USN/ret
Reloading with Blue/orange/red/green stuff !