" . . . lost a relative due to guns."

sbryce

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On another thread, Gusgus posted <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Ummm, excuse me folks, but did you ever notice that almost every anti tells you that they lost a brother, sister, aunt, uncle, child, etc. etc. to a gun? Care to wager that many (not all, but many) are bald faced liars?

I thought I remember reading a letter from the MMM, where they actually told their members, that when writing a letter to a newspaper, or when debating a Gun Rights Activist, to claim that they had lost a loved one to gun violence, as a way to validate their viewpoint. As soon as they claim this, we shut up, and they win.

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Just something to think about the next time an Anti tells you this line.[/quote]

And then there is the other kind of story. About a month ago, now, my cousin killed himself with his dad's .22. Mouse gun? I guess shot placement ruled. :( He was quite depressed as he was realizing that his brain injury several years before had left permanent damage. He left a note stating that it wasn't anyone's fault; he had simply lost the will to live.

TLF is a great place to express our frustration, discuss strategy, etc, but I'd just like to remind folks that when holding real-life discussions, please remember some sensitivity. Ask questions before making assumptions and sounding off.

My opinions on 2nd Ammendment issues have not changed in this past month; I'm still pro-RKBA. We all do wish my uncle had removed the gun instead of just hiding the bullets. But my cousin was quite determined, could drive, and as an adult could buy whatever he wanted.

Even Kalifornia's infamous gun laws didn't affect this situation.

--Denise
PS: For any Christians who may be interested, most of that side of my family are not Christians, and we're concerned about my aunt's odd ways of grieving. Also, she's the one who discovered my cousin dead on his bed and she's not a strong person. I have a small family and, though I was not particularly close to this cousin, this whole situation feels close-to-home. Prayers much appreciated, of course. :)
 

oberkommando

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Also sorry to hear of your loss.

As to the thread by "gusgus" never heard of him or was it dangus? Whoever it was I have also wondered at the figure that the anti's often quote, it does seem that they have all experienced "gun violence" as opposed to "knife violence" first hand. I remain skeptical of their claims as I know they lack the ability to understand logic and use emotion instead.
 

Dennis

Staff Emeritus
Denise,

Condolences, of course. We'll be thinking of you often.

Also, your comment, "Ask questions before making assumptions..." is advice we all should remember more consistently. (Me included.)
 

John/az2

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Denise,

I'm sorry to hear about your cousin. And as you have so astutely noted, there was nothing anyone could do to stop him short of wrapping him in a jacket and tossing him into a padded cell.

Unfortunately others without such logical powers of observation place the blame on the object.

I have not yet had a personal encounter with someone who claims loss of a loved one by gun, but should that happen, I plan on asking them who was to blame, and why. Hopefully, I'll be able to point them in the right direction.

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"When freedom is at stake, your silence is not golden, it's yellow..." RKBA!

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Do it for the children...
 

Miss Demeanors

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Denise,
My prayers and thoughts go out to you and your family. :(

While I never lost a family member to a firearm, I did lose a boyfriend years back. I was there, sitting right next to him, he took out his Dad's .357 mag, put it to the back of his head....well it wasn't a pretty sight. Unlike your courage, I did blame the gun and became very anti-gun after that. But after so many years, I finally learned about firearms and figured out for myself that the gun wasn't the problem. I give you alot of credit for realizing it wasn't the gun that took your cousin away. I'm sorry for your loss and hope time will heal your heart.
 
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Jeff, CA

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I lost a 14-year-old relative to suicide (with gun) a few years ago. I have a hard time fixing blame anywhere, so my stance on guns hasn't wavered.
 

Mike in VA

New member
I'm very sorry to hear of your loss. A true suicide as in the case of someone who has lost all hope and the will to live is a profound thing, and is something that someone in a 'normal' frame of mind would have a very difficult time even beginning to comprehend.

FWIW, I've seen a couple of studies that examined the sudiced rates before and after guns were removed from the society in question. Although the rate of gun suicides went down, the overall suicide rate didn't change, suggesting that if they're determined to leave this life, they'll find a way.

Just as in murder, blaming the instrumentality is foolish and brings us no closer to the real cause or the possibility of fixing the problem (or the responsibility). Hang in there, you're in our prayers. M&M2
 

Meiji_man

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Although firearms make suicide much easier, that lack of them does not in any way affect the suicides that occur. How many Anti's do you think have transfered their guilt onto the firearms.
"Guilt transferance" is very common in many survivors of suicides. And by survivor I mean the relatives of the the suicide, not people who tried and did not succeed. Note a few months ago, a son of a "Suicide Specialist" voted himself off the island. The man had become a public speaker, traveling accross the country to speak to kids about suicide and how to get help. And yes I do think this is funny.
One of these days I need to write that essay on "Psychological Reasons for Irrational Anti-gun Behavior"

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Matt VDW

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On a lighter note...

My wife once lost a family member to guns. We were at a sporting goods store and she lost me when I wandered off to look at the guns. :D
 

sbryce

New member
Thanks, all, for your condolences.

oberkommando, Gusgus added his note to the thread at http://www.thefiringline.com:8080/forums/showthread.php?threadid=40179. Then he added the text of "the form letter that the MMM were to use when writing to their local newspapers"--according to our DZ in March.

Sandy, I well remember your story. Thankfully I became pro-RKBA before this incident in my family. Also thankfully, I didn't actually see my cousin dead. World of difference between our stories. Actually watching the deed done . . . <shudder>!! My heart goes out to you.

Matt VDW, thanks for the smile. :)

--Denise
 

416Rigby

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I lost one of my best friends and former employer to suicide via a 357 Taurus. He owned a small gun-dealership in Fort Worth, TX; had done Viet Nam and had an incurable disease that prevented him from sleeping.

After years and years of living that way, he decided that life was unbearable and he ended it by shooting himself in the temple.

I was a pallbearer at his funeral. He loved and respected guns. I love them and respect them even more after knowing this wonderful friend. I know he would't want me to turn anti, and I know that doing so would never bring him back.

My most sincere condoleances, sbryce.
 

Oleg Volk

Staff Alumnus
I wonder if being shot while committing rape or robbery would qualify one for "victimhood of gun violence"...I am willing to bet it does for MMM's purposes.
 

pax

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<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Oleg Volk:
I wonder if being shot while committing rape or robbery would qualify one for "victimhood of gun violence"...I am willing to bet it does for MMM's purposes.[/quote]

Oleg, of course it does. Here's a quote for you:

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>"Criminal arrestees experience high levels of firearm victimization. Over half report being threatened with a gun and 42 percent have been shot at with a gun."[/quote] -- National Institutes of Justice. NIJ Research Preview: Arrestees and Guns: Monitoring the Illegal Firearms Market, September 1995

Translated, this reads "Thugs get shot."

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Sbryce, let me add my condolences to those already posted here. And as I remember to do so, I'll remember you and your family in my prayers.

pax

"Half our mistakes in life arise from feeling where we ought to think, and thinking where we ought to feel." -- John Churton Collins
 

Cactus

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Sbryce,

I am sorry for your loss. Suicide is a painful thing for the survivors.

I lost a good friend to suicide by carbon monoxide poisoning. However, I do not blame the car, he made his own choice!

The car, as is a gun, is only a tool. It can be used for good or for evil, but it takes a human to make the choice.
 

Donny

New member
Unfortunately suicide leaves those left behind wondering and doubting whether they did the right thing, or if they's just done this, or that. (long sigh)


I saw an SP commit suicide by walking of a 3 story building. I'll never forget it.

Several weeks later, a guy I worked with drove his car into a bridge abutment. Supposedly, because his wife was screwing around on him, and he couldn't handle it.

Your cousins death wasn't caused by a gun, rather by depression. Something I think you already know. Yet something the enemy choose to ignore.


Still, sorry to hear of the empty hole left in your family's lives.
 

7th Fleet

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I'm a cop in a medium sized city and we work several suicides each year and most are with guns. My PD has quite a collection of guns that we have taken from suicide scenes, the family members rarely want them back and they donate them to the Pd for our use. Most are hand guns but there are several who used rifles and IMHO when someone decides to check out of the net. There is no way to stop them if they are sincere in their wishes.

7th

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tatters

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I lost a cousin to suicide many, many years ago to carbon monoxide in a closed garage.
I have not a clue what she was up against at that time as we lived in another state. I only knew her fleetingly. Still bothers me now.
I do know that there is always a hole left in an otherwise intact family, and things are never the same. The family didn't quit driving because of it.

However, time does help to heal, and I hope the time required to make you and your family feel better is short.

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