cdoc42,
No apology needed first of all.
Second, the bull elk I killed last year with the 7mm Dakota was one of four elk I shot with it last year (Other three were cows), plus, one mule deer buck. I tried the Hornady 175 grain ELD-X last year, and it did great. Although this XP is set-up for distance hunting, all five animals were killed under 250 yards, and the bullet worked great with all of them. It's construction is not as tough, as some of the other ones I mentioned, but I killed enough animals with it last year, to say I would use it again.
Elk are far from bullet proof, and have successfully downed with smaller cartridges. Personally, I prefer 7mm on up for elk, but I would use a 6.5 or even a 25 cal, like the 25-06.
If your buddy just wants another elk rifle, buy all means, enable him to do so
For the distances, you have listed as his max, even the 280AI, 280, 7x57, and even the 7-08 will take elk cleanly at 500 yards, using the bullets I mentioned. I wouldn't go above the 160 grain weight for the 7-08 myself.
What the 7RM does for folks, is that it gives less drop and less drift than the others I have listed. Wind being the Achilles heel in distance hunting, it is nice to have the speed, to give you a little room for wind judging errors in the field. The 160 Nosler AB has a little less felt recoil than 175-180 class bullets, and it has a better BC for it's weight than say the Partition.
I am setting up a 6.5 PRC XP-100 and a 26 Nosler XP-100 with AB's or LR AB's for these two specialty pistols. I have shot my 26 Nos XP out to 1900 yards on steel already with the 147 grain ELD-M, but I want a differently constructed bullet for elk.