Elvishead is right about Federal's 110 grain load. It or the Nyclad should be fine for your purpose. Hornady makes a number of standard pressure .38 special loads also. Winchester makes their Silvertip in 110 grain standard pressure but it is not as "fast" as the Federal load, I don't believe. This may not be the best suggestion in many eyes, but personally I wouldn't be too worried about standard pressure 158 grain semi-wadcutters in that role either, or even Match 148 grain wadcutters. The 148 grain wadcutters are very easy to shoot, usually extremely accurate, and cut a full-size .36 caliber hole.
Personally, I'd lean toward the Nyclad. Hopefully, your mother will have a chance to shoot some of these and give her input.