Charmedlyfe
Moderator
I had been registered over at MIZZMAGAZINE for quite some time. Always thought that getting both views on issues involving women was a good idea. I just sent their webmistress an e-mail to delete my account. Why? heh....
I kinda got ticked over the general idea that only 'womym' (is the plural 'womyns?) could understand domestic violence. I was rather disgusted with how they perceived the dynamic. I started another thread about it in politics, and got jumped on. My question is this: can anyone seriously (really) explain to me how these 'empowered' persons can believe that female victims should not be at all responsible for their own safety? How can they believe that men should discuss this issue with the male aggressors and act to 'end the violence' while believing that the female victims should not be expected to do anything for their own safety, or attempt to change the victim mindset in any way. The 'womyns' believe that socialization as caretakers somehow trumps the (defective and criminal) socialization of the abusive men as aggressors. Both are learned behaviors that are harmful to the self/others, and both need to be addressed.
Am I missing something critical? Is it wrong for me to believe that the 'victim mindset' and behaviour must be changed before the problem can be eliminated? I don't believe that the women are responsible for causing violence and abuse, but is it wrong to believe that we should support and encourage women to not be victims, to break the behaviour patterns? I equate the problem to drug abuse. Only after the subject (junkie or victim) recognizes a problem and is willing to accept help can anything meaningful be done to help them.
Please, serious comments only.
I kinda got ticked over the general idea that only 'womym' (is the plural 'womyns?) could understand domestic violence. I was rather disgusted with how they perceived the dynamic. I started another thread about it in politics, and got jumped on. My question is this: can anyone seriously (really) explain to me how these 'empowered' persons can believe that female victims should not be at all responsible for their own safety? How can they believe that men should discuss this issue with the male aggressors and act to 'end the violence' while believing that the female victims should not be expected to do anything for their own safety, or attempt to change the victim mindset in any way. The 'womyns' believe that socialization as caretakers somehow trumps the (defective and criminal) socialization of the abusive men as aggressors. Both are learned behaviors that are harmful to the self/others, and both need to be addressed.
Am I missing something critical? Is it wrong for me to believe that the 'victim mindset' and behaviour must be changed before the problem can be eliminated? I don't believe that the women are responsible for causing violence and abuse, but is it wrong to believe that we should support and encourage women to not be victims, to break the behaviour patterns? I equate the problem to drug abuse. Only after the subject (junkie or victim) recognizes a problem and is willing to accept help can anything meaningful be done to help them.
Please, serious comments only.