I am currently waiting on a rim fire bolt action rifle to ship that I purchased last week from an auction on Armslist.
The listing stated specifically NO ship, like so many on that site.
I emailed the individual that listed the rifle who is in a neighboring state, and explained that I had an FFL holder to do the transfer, who would accept firearms from non-FFL holding individuals at no additional fee to him, and that I was willing to pay all shipping costs. He contacted me via phone almost immediately and agreed without issues to make the sale on the condition that his funds be received via USPS money order.
There can be costs involved for an individual to ship a firearm above and beyond just shipping itself, like transfer fees, especially when it comes to hand guns. I can understand a reluctance on the part of a seller to not keep it as simple as possible. I can also understand concern of not knowing just who you could be dealing with as well as a fear of possibly getting scammed.
Our phone conversation revealed that this individual, like myself, was an active buyer and seller on GunBroker, and active on a few firearms forums that I was familiar with. This gave each of us a pretty good feel for who it is that we're dealing with, of course it is still a leap of faith on both of our parts when you really get down to it.
He received payment in the mail yesterday and contacted me to let me know that he would be shipping the rifle to my FFL holder tomorrow and will be providing tracking information. An issue with his job causing the one day delay, no worries.
In the end it won't turn out much different than if it were a transaction initiated through a site like GunBroker.
There is potential for having real problems and I can understand an individual not wishing to take those kind of risks.