I would assume the lower would last the longest. But with steel pins for the trigger in an aluminum lower, that cannot be indefinite either.
When dissimilar metals are used in moving parts, the softer metal always wears first, and more.
However, in normal operation, the AR hammer and trigger pins do not move. The only time those pins move in the lower receiver is when the someone removes and reinstalls them.
Yes, when you move a steel pin in and out of a hole in aluminum, repeatedly, it will, eventually cause wear to the aluminum part.
IF you are concerned about those steel pins wearing out the aluminum lower, the answer is simple, don't take them out and put them back in repeatedly.
It is not necessary, there is no reason to, and just because you can does not mean you should.
While I cannot speak to what is the current practice, I can tell you with complete certainty that in the 1970s in the US ARMY, neither the user (individual soldiers) nor company level support personnel (company armorers) were authorized or allowed to disassemble the lower receiver group, and doing so was a punishable offense.
I know of a few AR15s from the 1980s that are over 100K with gas rings, buffer and trigger springs replaced. Sure, they are shooting 4 to 5 MOA, but they still run.
There is no doubt in my mind that the military would send those guns into combat, as they are still within "serviceable" specs.
Back when I was in, the accuracy standard for overseas shipment of the M16A1 was 8 MOA (eight minute of angle) if the rifle shot that well, or better, it was qualified for combat (overseas) use. Under the standard, if the rifle would not shoot 8MOA (or better) it was to be retained in the US for training use.
Civilian owners get to set their own standards, and get to "tinker" with their toys as much as they want to. Sometimes this results in parts getting worn or even broken from user handling and not from firing cycle stress.
I'd say though, that if you shot some 1973 ammo through it, might not lock back.
This has me curious, why you would say that. In 1973, factory produced .223 /5.56mm ammo was one of two types. GI M193 ball or commercial 55gr soft point loads. Why do you think a 1973 rifle, built to run on the ammo of the day would malfunction on that same ammo today??