My standard load for 9mm is a 124gr plated RN at 1.135" nominal, 4.2gr Titegroup. 1070fps in a Glock or BHP.
For less recoil, you can bring it down quite a bit. Here's some other data:
115gr XTP, 1.092:
3.0gr Bullseye, 830fps
3.3gr Bullseye, 883fps
3.5gr Bullseye, 979fps
115gr West Coast plated Round Nose, 1.120"
3.5gr VV-N320 892fps
3.8gr VV-N320 946fps
4.1gr VV-N320 1010fps
115gr XTP, 1.100"
3.5gr VV-N320 924fps
3.8gr VV-N320 1017fps
115gr WC plated RN, 1.100"
3.2gr VV-N320 880fps