There are some pretty big misconceptions about .223 Rem/5.56 NATO ammo,
And there are pretty big misconceptions about 'Self Defense' ammo vs. 'Target' and 'Hunting' ammo.
Common US made military cases have ZERO difference in cases since 2012.
ATK/Federal (Lake City) got the military specification for cases changed, cases are now identical in material & construction.
The ONLY hold over from military is crimped primers & bullets, and sealed primers & bullets.
(WCC used the old 5.56 case for an undetermined time, until supplies of case forming dies were expended)
Now, this doesn't exclude civilian cartridges from having crimped & sealed just like military ammo.
Keep in mind the US government ordered 3.2 BILLION rounds for Homeland Security and other government agencies, these are headstamped '.223' (civilian) but have a hodge-podge of crimped primers, sealed cases, might or might not be FMJ, soft points, hollow points or ballistic tips.
This SERIOUSLY blurs the line between .223/5.56 even further.
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Now, there are WAY too many vairables for 'Home Security' to make any blanket decision on what to use.
Penetration/Over Penetration, Expansion, Fragmentation, Ricochet Potential, etc.
While the military has struggled with these questions, civilian police have done more studies to cut down on potential for injuries to non-hostiles.
I would advise you take anything the speciality marketers advertise with a grain of salt.
Advertisments RARELY live up to real world performance, and some claim on the package can actually work against you in court... (If you have to deploy a firearm, fully expect to wind up in criminal and/or civil court).
As for hunting, it's up to you.
All the ammo companies make rounds for small, medium, large & large/dangerous game, varmints, etc.,
Their recommendations are usually spot on since they have spent more than a century developing those rounds.
Deer size animals (large, thin skinned), I find just plain, century old soft points break bones and still expand where they do the most good.
I do have to introject here, the .223 Rem was NEVER intended for Deer size game animals.
The .223 Rem is a small diameter, light weight, high velocity VARMINT/Target/Small Game round.
No amount of 'Fiddling' is going to change this...
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Not to change the subject, there is no bad guy in the world that doesn't know the sound of a pump shotgun racking a round in the chamber.
This alone will make most morons jump out of a third story window!
No shooting required!
The intimidation factor alone is off the charts.
Shotguns fire everything from slugs that will crack engine blocks to fine buckshot that won't penetrate two layers of drywall (at an angle, which is the situation in most home invasions).
Since home defense is done at very close ranges, the impact of a buck shot load will put down any human.
Easy to operate, nearly idiot proof, spread of shot reduces misses, and you don't have to explain to a jury why you used 'Super Duper Man Killer' rounds since buck shot is simply pellets, it's what you had in hand when someone broke in.
It's also not an 'Assault' weapon that is being front page news lately...
What I've seen in the news is 'Plucky' Home owner's stops home invasion with family shotgun, vs. 'Black Gun' death machine used in shooting...
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Use what you want, the choice is yours, just laying out some of the consideration in the current political climate & potential issues with both types of firearms.