DC, I would respectfully disagree with your assessment of the M&P trigger. It is junk. Sure, buying a trigger kit makes it better, but I, like many would prefer to buy RTG when possible. Please understand, this is no slight on you, just on the pistol.
That said, I would reccommend the XD or XDM 40. Also, 1911's like the SA EMP 40 are easy to carry and other real 1911's can be light in an aluminum frame. Fit to hand is highly tunable and there is no better trigger than a tuned 1911. A better grade 1911 often has a good OOTB trigger.