Hold on!!!!
Don't get mad at the seller, and don't make him "make it right". There is nothing wrong with the die.
RCBS expanding dies use universal expanders. .380, 9x19, 9x25, .38 Spcl, .357 Mag etc.... All .355-.358" pistol cartridges use the same expander.
(The different dies only have different part numbers, because the die body is a different length, but the same expander.)
It's not a matter of needing a specific size mandrel in your expander die. Just adjust the die to bell, as needed, for your cartridge.
There is nothing wrong with the die, just because it has an expander marked ".38 cal". They are all marked with "38 Cal" in some way. (38/9mm, 38/357, 355/357, etc.)
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The problem you are describing, is caused by dirty case heads or a dirty shell holder (causing the cases to sit in different positions while being processed).
OR (Most likely)
You are using mixed brass. Mixed brands. Mixed lots. Mixed quality. Mixed number of firings. Not all .380 auto cases are created equal. Certain brands run longer than others, and other brands run short. (Aside from various other differences.)
Plus... Straight-wall semi-auto pistol cartridges actually 'shrink' in length with each firing.
Sort your brass by head stamp, and apparent age before trying the process again.
---If none of the above apply; you probably got a bad batch of brass.---