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How would you compare the recoil of a 357 magnum to either a 9mm, 40, or 45?
There is no direct compsarison, unless you shoot them all in exactly the same model and barrel length gun. You could do this with a Thompson Center Contender. Then you would have an accurate basis for comparing the recoil.
It is both the power (energy) of the round, AND the size and weight and grip shape of the gun that determines how you will feel the recoil.
Single action style guns have a much different grip shape than double action revolvers or autoloading pistols. Different grips shapes and sizes do make a difference. So does trhe verall size and weight of the gun. I have a 9mm barrel (6") for my Contender, and it recoils nothing like my P38. I have a 10" .357 mag barrel for the Contender, and it does not recoil like my 6.5" Blackhawk or my 6" S&W M28, even with the same ammo.
I have a Ruger Blackhawk 7.5" barrel with a .45 ACP cylinder, and it recoils nothing like my 1911, or my Browning BDA .45 (Sig P220). And those are just guns in the same calibers!
Of the rounds you listed, the .357 has the greatest energy, and so by the laws of physics, the greatest recoil. But what you feel, and how you feel it is "adjusted" by the size, shape, and weight of the gun you fire it out of. A micro mini 9mm is a lot worse to shoot than an N-frame S&W .357, at least for me.